Should Christians Have Large Families?

Craig Carter thinks we should. He found Akin’s comments from Joe Carter’s post, and provided these six reasons for large families:

  1. God has never rescinded his command to “be fruitful and multiply.”
  2. There are numerous passages in the OT that view children as a blessing from the Lord (eg. Ps. 127:3).
  3. Contrary to much conventional wisdom, the world’s birth rate is declining rapidly…
  4. Christians have hope for the future because of our faith in God.
  5. All abortion and some forms of contraception should be rejected by Christians.
  6. Christians need to submit their wills to God and accept children as gifts from Him, rather than as “projects” or “products” of our own wills.

Read the whole post for his explanations.

Get Outta My Face?

Since I posted about teenagers, Westminster Bookstore highly suggests this new book on parenting teens by Rick Horne titled, Get Outta My Face: How to Reach Angry, Unmotivated, Disinterested Teens with Biblical Counsel. I have not read it, but David Powlison, Adjunct Professor of Practical Theology, Westminster Theological Seminary, says,

Rick Horne knows from life experience how to do what seems impossible—how to connect with teens. If you care about teenagers, if you work with teens, if you live with a teen, this book will help you reach their hearts.

View the book here for 30% off. WTS Books also provides pdfs of the Table of Contents and Chapter 1.

iMonk on Parenting Young Adult Children

Michael Spencer has some helpful advice for parents: “Some Mistakes to Avoid With Young Adult Children.” He has 12 points, and this is his conlcuding one:

We should remember that young adults need to grow as Christians. They do not need to be thrown into positions of leadership and ministry before they are ready or because they make the church “look good.” We’ve been incredibly selfish as evangelicals when it comes to our goals with young adults. We’ve been far more interested in what they can do for us than in what we can do to encourage and develop them as Christians and fellow brothers and sisters.

Good and wise words. Check all his points out here, and for some more helpful advice, Ted Tripp’s book Age of Opportunity is a great resource for parenting teenagers.

Some Healthy Aspects of Family Life

Barnabas Piper has a guest post at 22 Words, the blog of his brother Abraham Piper. The guest post is “22 things I admire about my parents on their 40th anniversary.” What I find helpful about this post are the many normal things that Barnabas remembers. We are often tempted to forget these things when we think of families like the Pipers. So, here are a few practical things that I took away from his post:

  • Have an open door policy, allowing people to visit at any time.
  • Be available for your children, their friends, and their family.
  • Lean against the culture by loving and rejoicing in children and grandchildren and great-grandchildren.
  • Enjoy going to church.
  • Have guests over for meals, and include them in family devotions.
  • Encourage creativity and hobbies.

Read Barnabas’ whole post for other ideas.

He wants out…

Our family is expecting another baby. We are very excited about it, and today we found out the baby is a boy. So we come home with the ultrasound recording, and our two kids get to watch the baby on TV. My son, who is six, is watching the baby move and reach around, so he says, “He wants out. He’s looking for a door.”

Too good not to share!

Palin’s Example Will Mean Less Downs Babies Killed?!?

Justin Taylor directed my attention to Andrew Malcom’s LA Times blog, which reports that Dr. Andre Lalonde, Executive VP of Ottawa’s Society of Obstetricians & Gynecologists, actually believes that Gov. Palin’s decision may cause abortions in Canada to decline as other women there and elsewhere opt to follow suit. Yes, that is what a doctor recently said. This is so unbelievably wicked, it is hard to believe someone would actually say this. Here is an excerpt from the blog:

Sarah and Todd Palin’s decision to complete her recent pregnancy, despite advance notice that their baby Trig had Down syndrome, is hailed by many in the pro-life movement as walking the walk as well as talking the talk.But a senior Canadian doctor is now expressing concerns that such a prominent public role model as the governor of Alaska and potential vice president of the United States completing a Down syndrome pregnancy may prompt other women to make the same decision against abortion because of that genetic abnormality. And thereby reduce the number of abortions.

Published reports in Canada say about 9 out of 10 women given a diagnosis of Down syndrome choose to terminate the pregnancy through abortion.

Dr. Andre Lalonde, executive vice president of the Society of Obstetricians and Gynecologists in Ottawa, worries that Palin’s now renowned decision may cause abortions in Canada to decline as other women there and elsewhere opt to follow suit.

He says not every woman is prepared to deal with the consequences of Down babies, who have developmental delays, some physical difficulties and often a shortened lifespan.

Wider use of blood screening and amniocentesis during pregnancies can now accurately predict the presence of Down syndrome.

Lalonde says his primary concern is that women have the…choice of abortion and that greater public awareness of women making choices like Palin to complete a pregnancy and give birth to their genetically-abnormal baby could be detrimental and confusing to the women and their families.

Read the whole thing. Let us pray that more woman follow Gov. Palin’s example.

9Marks eJournal on the Family

The 9Marks Journal is online, and it is on the family. You can view the pdf version here. I have provided  links to the articles below:

An Audio Interview with Voddie T. Baucham, Jr.

Resurgence has an good interview with Voddie Baucham: Paradigm Shift, Not Program Shift. The interview discusses his book A Family Driven Faith: Doing What it Takes to Raise Sons and Daughters Who Walk with God. He is encouraging pastors, churches, and Christians to rethink what the family is to be and how the church should minister to families. During the interview he says that “there are few things that are as attractive in this culture today as a well ordered family.” The reason is that our culture doesn’t know how to be married or raise kids or interact with each other in a family. When unbelievers see this taking place in the family, it becomes an incredible opportunity to explain the importance of the gospel. Voddie Baucham also has a website and a blog.

My Dad

One year ago today, on January 22, 2007, my father died. He was a faithful Christian who went to be with His Lord, but the struggles during that time and the weeks and months to follow were immense. Most of the events surrounding his death while he was in the hospital happened so fast that it was a shock to us. I have never really felt as helpless as I did that week. I think one of the hardest things in the life of faith is living in the midst of suffering and pain and embracing it instead of trying to stay busy and ignore it.

The Lord was very gracious  to my family and me in giving us such a great dad who was always there for us and always kept the Lord at the center of his life. Since we moved to Memphis, he and my mom would visit almost once a month if we did not make it home. The toughest part of the past year has been not being able to talk to him. We had a good relationship, and we talked about everything possible–the Christian life, church, family, money, the future, planning, and many other things related to life. In spite of that, there are many questions I have had over the past year, and I wanted to call him up and ask, “Dad, what do you think about….” He was always there for me. I couldn’t have asked for a better dad.

I had the honor of preaching his funeral service. I have had many friends and family ask for a copy of the message, so I have posted it under the audio link to the right. You can access it here.

The Divorce and Remarriage Discussion

At the beginning of October, I referenced an article by David Instone-Brewer on divorce and remarriage at Christianity Today: “What God has Joined Together: What Does the Bible Really Teach about Divorce?” This article is a summary of his book on divorce and remarriage.

When the article came out, Justin Taylor provided a summary of the article with a chart from Andreas Kostenberger’s book God, Marriage, and the Family.

Since then, there has been a discussion concerning the issue of divorce and remarriage around the blog world. This is a run down of the discussion.